Raising your kid’s right is not an easy task and many parents are not sure how to do it.
Every parent must have difficulties at some point. Kids sometimes tend to have temper tantrums and misbehaving, however, that is normal, but what’s important is to know how to deal with them in such situations.
Most of the parents make these 5 common errors when dealing with their children. In today’s article, you will find out how to recognize such problems and how to properly react.
If you don’t react in time these little behaviors and actions can have a great negative impact on their lives. The following 5 examples of errors ware provided by psychologists.
HERE ARE THE FIVE ERRORS PARENTS NOWADAYS REPEATEDLY MAKE:
#1 You’re afraid of your children
Example: When a child wants to drink milk from a different cup and don’t want to use the usual one most parents subconsciously will start looking for another cup instead of ignoring the request.
The parent would fear that they will refuse to eat or start to cry.
Psychologists believe that it is a huge mistake to do that. This is just a simple example where it might not be harmful to listen to their request. But the point is that in the long run if you fulfill every command that your kid gives it will turn into a habit.
You must think about what message you´re sending them when you give them all they want just because they are crying. Sometimes you have to let them know that they cannot have everything that they desire and is ok even if they are mad and start to cry.
In this case, balance is the answer!
#2 making excuses (“That´s how children are”)
If you justify their outbursts and misbehavior in public you are actually motivating them to continue misbehaving and be irresponsible.
Children are more capable to do things than their parents expect, that goes for manners, respect, generosity, self-control and everyday domestic work.
Psychologists say that you should have greater expectation from them to motivate them to do more in life.
#3 you don’ let others scold them
A few decades ago professors and teachers could scold our children when they behaved improperly.
Nowadays that is impossible for these new generations and their parents. If a teacher gives a piece of their mind to some kid, the parents would go crazy. Thus, giving power and courage to the kid to misbehave more.
Now parents won’t even like to know what happened and their reaction is all that matters.
Therefore, it is important to find out what your child really do and realistically judge it. If your kid did something wrong you should recognize this problem. If not, it won’t learn about respect and to fix any mistake in life.
#4 Children come in the first place
It is important to love our children and look after them, but what is more important is to establish a relationship which they know that you are in charge and not them.
If you spoil them too much you will be the first person who will be suffering and then the rest of the world.
Let them know that you are the one who is raising them and not them schooling you. If you really love your kid you must learn when to stop and how to stop.
It is important to take care of yourself too, too much stress can not cause you any good. Learn how to say “NO”, and that is the most common mistake modern parents don’t learn.
#5 they use to take advantage of the shortcuts
Patience is the hardest lesson to be learned. Often parents give their kids electronic devices when they are bored. For example whenever they´re waiting for a doctor’s appointment, boarding a plane, waiting for a bus.
We live in an era where everything is within our reach so this is one main reason why patients are harder to be achieved.
Therefore it is of great importance to give them little chores and they have to do them before watching a movie or play with their gadgets and toys.
These 5 recommendations will help them to become stronger and more successful in life. Furthermore, it will make your life much easier as well.